Create what you can’t find.
For a lot of people, networking is a four letter word. It’s charged with awkwardness and insecurities. How are you supposed to just show up in a room full of people you’ve never met and suddenly make business connections?
I’ll be honest, I used to hate networking. I’d psyche myself up before walking into the place, telling myself I was cool and smart and friendly and there was nothing to be worried about. I’d greet people with a big smile and sometimes engage them in conversation but for some reason it just never seemed to get anywhere. A lot of times I’d leave events deflated and with a bruised ego. I’d leave thinking I’d done something wrong. That was until I realized I was walking into a sea peacocks – people inflating themselves to appear bigger and stronger than perhaps they actually are.
I got sick of that environment real quick and decided not to go anymore. I needed something safer and something more authentic. I needed to get to the nitty gritty. I wanted to get raw about what I was going through and how I might be able to help others. I tried to find smaller groups but nothing seemed to fit what I was looking for.
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My solution? I created it for myself. A year ago I started Thirsty Gals – a refreshing way to network. I was in serious need of other entrepreneurial women to provide insight on their experiences so I could avoid their mistakes. I wanted a way to share my accomplishments in an environment where I didn’t feel I needed to inflate them. Thirsty Gals has done just that. We’re always an intentionally small group of career driven women who are eager to exchange ideas and it’s fucking awesome.
Last week, we held our first Power Up – attracting success event. Holy crap, it was amazing. I left buzzing. We came together over wine and cheese and other delicious snacks and just talked up a storm about what we want to see in our lives and how we can make it happen. The enthusiasm was through the roof and I watched new connections form like shocks of electricity. You know how I know it was awesome? After 3 hours of socializing at the end of a long day, people were forcing themselves to go home.
I share all this because I’m proud of the environment I’ve created. I’m honored to create a space that makes me happy but also spreads confidence and joy to others that joined me. I’m there to do the work for myself, but it’s the greatest honor in the world to share it with people that I adore. I couldn’t find the space that I craved so I made it for myself.
If you’re searching for something that you can’t find, create it for yourself. If you feel something is missing, that means others will too. Do everyone a favor and create what you can’t find.
Also, I do hope you’ll join us for one of our events. We’re pretty awesome people. 🙂